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Monday, November 19, 2012

Through A Rapist's Eyes



THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.)
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‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!
  It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such asituation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.6] Number three is public restrooms.7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.———————————————————————————————————————————-POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
 2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow andarmpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told ourinstructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without usingmuch pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feellittle silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.——————————————————————————————————————————-FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/orpurse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE. 
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may behiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.) 
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.  
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
 REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOWATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD.So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this. 
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.

My grandma was tied up by Ted Bundy (She got away) so please please be aware.
It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…

FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:


1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

———————————————————————————————————
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would 
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

———————————————————————————————————

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.
‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW
ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD.
So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this.
 
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.
My grandma was tied up by Ted Bundy (She got away) so please please be aware
Reblogged from: http://sorenthan.tumblr.com/post/26113337415/larrystylinsoneternal-opal-leaves-through 

Sunday, November 11, 2012

What is the Line?

This morning I was asked a very important question about the "line" on election ballots. This was my response. Readers should be aware of the fact that Facebook would not allow me to post the following response on my own profile page. This is the reason that you see it here. The 1st Amendment is still in effect in America.

Reader friendly text of The Bill of Rights

The average person misses the single most important detail in voting. That is the position of the candidate on the ballot. For example, both democratic candidates for 4th Ward council should have been on line 2 clearly showing them as Democrats. The voters should have been instructed to vote for 1. That would have been a true representation of the fair and Democratic process. (taking into consideration that each candidate should have done all that is required to get on the ballot in the first place) Folks who control this know that the average person will complete the process the easy way. As in the general election, they go straight down the line. Most people think that if you are off the line there is something wrong, that you are not a Democrat. People do not understand the significance of what people in the green party are fighting to protect. Even worse, society has taught the aveage person that people off the line might be some type of subversive saboteur of the democratic process. In school board elections, a person with no backing may win if placed on line 1. The further down the line you go the more financial backing you need. 

Now let us get to SEEK. School board elections are supposed to be non partisan. (this means that the candidates do not have to declare party affiliation. A deeper meaning is that no one candidate should be a fanatical follower of any one organization. That is one definition of partisan. SEEK is the very good example of that type of organization. Candidates must deny and detach themselves from all other groups in order to get SEEK's financial backing. (2 of the current board members called me and resigned from a Community Ed. group) At this point, every single person on the board of Education has sworn allegiance to SEEK and not to the taxpaying members of Englewood. Under the covers, we find that SEEK gets much of its funding and support from wards that actually supported Romney for president or just plain old did not vote. Check the election results. The same people just engineered the outsourcing of Paraprofessionals and Secretaries. Is that enough? SEEK actually picks the candidates and funds their campaigns. SEEK does, not the community. The people who now control SEEK have perverted the original mission and made the organization a tool for segregation and union busting. Need I say more here in this open forum? 

Oh and these same people support the candidate who did not follow the Democratic process and still got on the ballot. They ignored Title 19:13-20 NJ Election Law the same as the current school board and supporters ignored 18A:27-10.1-4. This does not bode well. It becomes even more tragic when we trace the money and support to our elected officials on a local, county, state and federal level. Englewood is a petry dish that mirrors the events in America today.

Word on the street is that people who voted in Hackensack had a different view of the ballot than we did in our polling booth. That is an interesting concept since our City Clerk went on a rant on Tuesday morning that supports this allegation. This rant lead to she and the mayor forcing the removal of candidates for 4th ward city council from the polling place  where they were legally allowed to be since their names appeared on the ballot.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Pride of Place: Good Neighbors

Monique's garden
Today was a very good day. I posted a status update on Facebook asking if anyone knew where to get gas. Loads of people responded giving advice of places to purchase gas. There was a great response. One in particular came from another 4th Ward Family. It touched me like I have not been affected in a lot of years. Responses like this are among the reasons why I do this. Oh, did some of you think it was because of the great paycheck I get for wearing this large bulls eye on my back? News Flash. A friend messaged me inbox and told me that I could have some of  her family's gas. At first, I was reluctant, but then I decided to leave pride alone and accepted the offer. Less than 20 minutes later, she and her husband arrived with the children and put the gas in my car themselves. It was a marvelous gift and I will never forget it. 

Monique's 4-1 Garden


I offered to pay, but they refused. The husband said it was the neighborly thing to do. I hugged them both and got all teary eyed as they drove away. That is the kind of thing we work for years to nurture in neighborhoods like ours. That was the best I have felt in years. They live in 4-3. Before today that seemed like a another part of town. 

Pride of Place.

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Stand Together Or Fall Alone

ATTENTION! ATTENTION 4th Ward Residents: We must mobilize and get the word out that people may vote early. We must also inform them that the entire 4th Ward must vote at Liberty School.

EARLY VOTING -
Place: One Bergen County Plaza, Hackensack, NJ
When: Saturday and Sunday
Time: 9 am to 3 pm
Monday from 9 am to 4 pm

ELECTION DAY: Tuesday, November 6
Time: 6 am to 8 pm
Place: Liberty School
          12 Tenafly Rd. (In the old Board of Education building at the monument. 
          Russell C. Major Liberty School

Voting Information From the Governor's Office: http://nj.gov/state/elections/2012-results/signed-directive-hurricane-sandy-110212.pdf

The 4th Ward City Council position is the only Englewood race with two opposing candidates. One of those Candidates clearly does not represent the interests of the 4th ward. Keep in mind that the time goes back tonight. It will be dark at 6 am and it will be dark at 8 pm. People who do not have power, phone, facebook or email do not have this information. The majority of the 4th Ward is still in darkness. 4th Ward Residents are being required to make their way to the THIRD WARD to vote when at least one 4th Ward polling place has power. Contrary to public opinion everyone does not have a cellphone with the internet, Facebook and Twitter. (I do not and am not alone in this.)

We need everyone that has this information to get out and make sure that people in the neighborhood know where to vote. It is more important than ever to get this information out. Everyone is NOT on facebook. My backyard touches people who do not have power. It is that way on both sides of the street. I would not have known anything if I had not gone outside and engaged the people in my neighborhood. Go outside and talk to your neighbors. Make sure they know where to vote.

Make sure they know that people in other wards are making decisions for us at a very crucial time. Events have already been manipulated by others in other wards. Eugene Skurnick, Sue Gamrin, Sondra Greenberg, Kenneth Rosensweig, Earl A. Marsan, Frank Huttle III, Sandra Slipp, William Merritt, Marc Foreman, Lynne Algrant and Valerie Huttle and others do not live in the 4th Ward and should not be allowed to control the outcome of this election. Regardless of the relationship they have with Wayne Hamer, they must not be allowed to decide the outcome of an election in the 4th Ward.

This is about more than one ward in Englewood, New Jersey. This type of craziness is at work all over this country. It is deplorable that a tragedy like this storm may be used as a form of voter suppression. 

Make sure that people also know about the gas restrictions. Today is an odd license plate day, tomorrow even, Monday odd, Tuesday even. Only those with corresponding license plate numbers will be able to purchase gas on these days. Those of you who were around in the mid 70's know the horrors that this type of restriction on gas purchase caused. The odds are against this turning out well. We must all participate in creating a happy end to this situation.

You should all know that I did not pick names above out of thin air. They are the ones who have created this tragic disconnect among 4th Ward voters. See for yourself. They are the ones who are making the decisions. View it in their own hand on this vacancy certification which is not the same thing as a petition of 4th Ward Residents. We have been manipulated. End this now. It is time to be outraged. Click here.  https://acrobat.com/?d=N-YXOqpOAz0-RAOXn5iFGA



 Notice that the other Candidate followed Title 19 Election Law. His petition is signed by 45 4th Ward Residents, not 2. Do we take this on our knees or do we fight it standing on our feet?Click here.
https://workspaces.acrobat.com/?d=0heHGQoFHGdBQbF85AWwaw

Read this article and note that at least one City Council Member acknowledges that the procedure followed is a bit strange. 
Click here.   http://englewood.patch.com/articles/englewood-city-council-appoints-drakeford-s-replacement

 There are approximately 3,500 registered voters in the 4th Ward. We must reach all of them. Our President needs their vote and our Ward needs their voices to drown out those who would presume to give us our facts and our leaders.